16 RelationsPick two16 relations16 typesvs. other testsTheoryRead firstRU日本語
Two people standing side by side at a tall window, seen from behind

Pick two types

A  You

B  The other person

Their type

Q1At a gathering of strangers, they

Q2When they describe a weekend

Q3Giving directions, they

Q4Their conversation is mostly

Q5When someone is struggling, they

Q6When criticised, they

Q7Plans are

Q8With a deadline, they

Similar beginnings, different continuations

Some people hit you immediately; some work on you slowly. Neither is better; the timing is different. Four relations, for example, feel almost the same in the first month and grow in four different directions.

DualityQuiet at first. The longer you spend together, the more natural it becomes. The best fit and the easiest to overlook.
ActivationEvery meeting lifts you. Better with gaps in between, so sometimes beats every day.
ExtinguishmentYou talk with striking ease and take the same interest in different directions. Best while running in parallel.
ConflictThe strongest pull. The sore spots are close together, so decide the distance and it lasts.

That is why this site returns a shape, not a score. Once you know where you fit and where to leave things to the other person, most of the rest is manageable.

The sixteen relations

Two lines are two people. How they approach and how they part differs by relation.

The sixteen types

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